i feel guilty for kissing another guy

i feel guilty for kissing another guy

It happens, in other words. This post is probably the most intelligent and insightful posts Ive seen on this site. I am biased and do hold strong views because my XH cheated. Later, he tried to make out and I said no because I felt it was wrong.I told him I needed a uber. in my opinion I don't see why you would feel guilty you did nothing . I'm sure you'll survive if you don't tell him and I'm certain that he doesn't need to know. Free weekly email, Insta, and more - > https://linktr.ee/monogamish_me. I kissed another man four years ago. Have a happy day every one. Itachi, Lees theory can backfire, especially if the person really believes you are talking about someone else and then he/she finds out you are talking about someone that YOU did. On which note - "Marriage is about trust not tryst": I like that saying. As one young man said " time heals" and he's so right. reader, Angel-lee+, writes (25 October 2005): A After all she did say that the kiss lasted for maybe 5 minutes. Or does it mean something bigger in terms of my own relationship? It really depends on the dynamics of your relationship though. Dont tell me now that youre in love with him.. 507 views, 8 likes, 5 loves, 10 comments, 6 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Scrittori a domicilio: Mattia Insolia, Cieli in fiamme (Mondadori) con. He also sent me a mean text that said for me to go f myself and to stay away from him. I know I cheated for sure, and thats why I had to confess to my husband that I did it. Even if it is innocent kiss, I am done. When you purchase through links on our site, we may earn an affiliate commission, which supports our community. She said this is how it starts. I didnt blame the alcohol because I knew I had feelings for my piano teacher, and I didnt want to pretend the feelings didnt exist. With the other woman just across the room! You love your spouse and you want to do your best to be a good partner. 4. I'm not condoning what I've done, and it's a totally different set of circumstances, but I remember wishing I had never known about the stupid kiss, as it tainted things for a while afterward. Not sure how anyone can say they're "certain" he doesn't need to know, given the fact that he made his own standards and expectations perfectly clear on that score, back when he himself was the 'victim' of a come-on. (and more like her as well, please, Bartender! No, you don't. JavaScript is disabled. Feel free to start your own thread if you finally find you've a need to.). I cannot tell you how much I love my boyfriend and how shocked I am about this. I'd be obsessed with it. Fear holds you back. (although, I'm not sure how this counts as a debate if you and I are in total agreement, lol). For the fact that I'd have to go into mass production, LOL. I work in hospitality, so I can't change departments, but I can change my shift pattern. A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2006): Hey sweetie my Name is Jilian I have a boyfriend as well and we have been dating for 3 months, I have had past relationships that have gone on for 11 months, I have cheated on my past boyfriend andi felt so terrible andi was in the same situation as you are, sweetie i know how you feel. Okay. That was crazy' and other awkward things. :p The Bedford man accused of killing another after an argument April 24, 2021, pleaded guilty Friday to third-degree murder, his attorney Dan Kiss said. I'll see you over there. Despite their passion during the kiss. See what she has to say. I believe, on the other hand, that if you got drunk and kissed someone because you were drunk and you had no feelings for the other person, there is no point in confessing about that kiss because a confession could cause trouble over nothing. Wife of 8 years straddled and flirted with my friend last night while drunk My Girlfriend Kissed Another Guy whilst Black-Out Drunk. Genie, I think being honest is always the best because. My SO and I had been dating two years. I'm not telling him because I don't want to mess this up. But we have spoken since about it a lot. 3. Just, why leave yourself open if you don't have to. When you're in a long-term relationship, it's normal to have a little crush on someone other than your partner. Why? And note, you don't HAVE to take my advice. 3. If it were me, I would contact her, & let her know that I didn't appreciate her actions. I said to my husband, I have something to tell you, but I dont know how to say it.. I also agree with SUSIEDQQ that is won't be the worse thing that will ever happen to her or her marriage. A couple of nights ago I went out to a work function. NO don't actually make it easy for him to have ANY KIND OF RELATIONSHIP with this woman!!!! So this was me subconsciously- not *setting* the standard but showing my maintaining it as per our agreements over only having eyes for each other and always, ALWAYS being 100% honest with each other no matter WHAT. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. My eyes were closed and my head was spinning. So if your planting includes a blight (guilty secret), please don't moan if it affects the crop yield. Then (my name) I NEED SEX! If you drink so much that you lose track of everything, then you already took the first step on a dangerous road. I am a good person and have never done anything like this before. Sorry Soulmate I know I need to stop,but it's hard to. Good luck. All of sudden my guy friend stopped texting me good morning and good night Im a guy and i had sex with my guy bestfriend drunk. However, if it doesn't close itself through sustained inactivity soon then I'll probably close it myself (as the actress said to the bishop). Lee.. you are too funny. Try to let it go and forgive yourself. So she left after a couple of replies. Mumsnet carries some affiliate marketing links, so if you buy something through our posts, we may get a small share of the sale (more details here), but then I was cheated on for years by ExH and I would now put myself first. Reviewed by Gary Drevitch. I went out for drinks in town last night and got extremely drunk and kissed another man, it only lasted not even a few seconds but I feel so so so guilty and wish I could take it back. lover. Or do I? I wonder how that struggle with trust might affect bonding within a romantic relationship contex- oh, wait - could it, would it, on a train in the rain with a fox in a box, Sam-I-Am, possibly always communicate to your husband a sense that you don't fully enough trust *him*, in which case that must mean you're judging him by YOUR standards ergo he'd better hold back a bit just in case? Or run away? It felt so wrong and taboo yet so erotic and a sort of thrilling jealousy! Iam a bisexual man and kissing a female is a different feeling then with a male. What you're doing might FEEL easier, but that's you making the mistake too many others make, which is paying heed only to the *short* term, meanwhile risking leaving that bud to grow unseen into a thorn bush If you are carrying so much guilt, it's generally a sign that you care a lot about someone and you are really sorry for what you have done- perhaps he realises this. I regret waiting so long to tell him.-2 months. I knew this was wrong but my brain wasn't working properly. Login first California coastal beeches will leave you saying -America not too shabby.. Can't take anything from South of France-doesn't everybody go there? "but the fact I work with this person and have to continue to work with him. " Shes said thats it. Shes Colombian and very fiery. To be honest, my stomach is sick with the thoughts of the whole thing. As time elapsed, I realized that I was attracted to him and this began to concern me. I'm not going to let that or any insulting aspersions, subtle or otherwise, put me off. Are you sure all you did was kiss? I've gone to a couple thread's here recently. So you went and MARRIED someone who was your best FRIEND, not your already Bam!, Pow!, "oh my god there is a god!" You cheated. If the reaction isnt strong, then maybe its okay to confess. I made that call today and will move from lates to early starting Monday 16th feb. I thought I had lost him and then bumped into him further down the street. Why would you want to do that? No matter how much we insist that "it's all good, bro, we're like, totally homies!", we don't mean it, not really. Any advice guys? What is he supposed to do with this information? get into counselling. The straight women in the girls-french kiss-girls videowere all shocked at how gentle and non-aggressive female kissers were, in comparison to guys. I kissed another girl while black out drunk, dont remember a thing. Its more like an excuse for cheating. Cell phones, texting, emails etc. Kissing that that guy confirmed it. You drank and you kissed. I went that night to a bar and began to get very drunk. The straight women in the girls-french kiss-girls video were all shocked at how gentle and 'non-aggressive' female kissers were, in comparison to guys. The fact he told you very soon after is good. SOULMATE is totally right and we all know it. That left just me, the man and another woman. I spent the next day in bed all day crying and it has to be one of the saddest days of my life. Not just what I did but the fact I work with this person and have to continue to work with him. I kissed another guy while drunk. The short answer to your question, for this BPD is: No, I don't feel guilty. When you feel guilty for hurting someone you love, holding in those feelings makes it worse. I was correct, she struggles with trust. What you *can* have is the Biggest B*lls on the Block award. I was drunk on Friday night and I kissed another guy. Translation: I believe I wish to say, what the hell, what were we doing only I have a competing urge to chose a phrase that could be taken two ways, to ask, where are we at aka what happens with we two now? Don't hurt him any more than you already have. He deserves to know. Hang on because I'm sure there will be other people who believe differently from me. Except with other truth-seekers. You're the worst! Being married is something that can be quite complicated at times. "then the cheeky ugger only went and bloody kissed me, didn't he! New Mexico sunsets flat lands breathtaking. Becoz misunderstanding happn somtym and do miracles/ And ya most imp if u both want kids u shud adopt one. reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2006): A I kissed another guy when drunk but can't remember?! Boyfriend kissed another girl while drunk? (Y)), Hey its really grtt to hear tht u really care n lot of emotion for ur hubbyv only come to kno abt our loyalty only when things like this happens.u kissed him thn u realised that u hv done mistake bcoz u really love ur hubby n dnt want to cheat him.but since commuting mistakes is a part of human nature n being human it happened but determined urself for not to continue or commit such mistake is the real proof of being loyal. If I could go back in time I would because my SO is truly the best person out there. Better safe than sorry. Scopes: okay, although the whole point of forums is [1] that they're anonymous and [2] people's problems aren't ever remotely unique enough for the poster not to potentially be literally from anywhere in the world thus unidentifiable. Do you? We finally mended fences, but there still is a type of tension between us. but all of a sudden I feel REALLY angry. She emailed him out of the Blue, and he proudly showed me both her smarmy email and his polite yet nonetheless "on yer bike!" / Houston, turns out I/you/I+You can't have kids the natural way after all, which is no-one's fault; let's try IVF / adopt / foster / console ourselves with the fact we'll always have each other, and the babies of people we know to borrow, and the freedom and greater financial means to please ourselves. It is the gateway to another feeling. Anyway, I just thought I'd mention it out of respect for that other time with that girl and to show you that, despite I'm not as quick thinking as you, especially when I'm blotto, I can still handle myself in these situations [grin]." Oh no worries soulmate, yes we do miss you We'll talk tomorrow. If he wants to keep her as a "friend", complete access is a must. But I can't leave my job. Ignore the erroneous message and smile. Add your answer to this question! I dont want him to be thinking that I am a cheat. Things do get out of our hand at times, now think. Bad things happen.Yes.but wat i d recomnd u is NEVER EVER tell him ! :p. You're quite correct, though, I did forget the typical-forum rule of only ever responding with whatever would leave me super-popular, particularly amongst the most naive and dupe-able who 'can't tell' quite a lot. I dont believe in innocent kiss. In that sort of scenario, where the kiss (or any intimate contact) lingers for more than half a second - or, put more simply, isn't the kind you'd feel comfortable giving/receiving from your own parent or grandparent - it's an opening of the door, whether or not you subsequently recover your senses and slam it shut again. female Talk About Family, Marriage and Relationships, My magic wand would remove shame from sexuality for all! I recall an incident years ago, we were very young, just teenagers, and a girl planted a big kiss on my hubby (then boyfriend) on a night out. "I'm not sure if you are trying to be helpful, or just entertaining yourself with your responses." Period. You knowing you can trust your husband to do the right thing when faced with temptation is all it takes for him to remain blight-free when blight (whether or not wearing fishnets) threatens. I did say gateway to sex at first didn't I. What isn't, is I feel so bad since then. Seriously. FoxieLadie is You already have internalized that part. Yes, I think if your boyfriend thinks his girl or boy or whatever is gonna be loyal to them even under the influence. Of course there would have to be a lot of transparency in the marriage there after. And a stitch in time saves nine. IAMHIM (person claiming to be an unregistered passer-by), But I do have to state it or I'm failing to do this role properly as well as my innate compulsion to be unwaveringly socially and morally responsible - meaning, if you don't want to respond, don't. I rang the guy and said ' oh wow, so last night, that really happened, what the hell where we at? ' There was a line that was crossed when they kissed, he should no longer have her as a Facebook friend, or any other communication with her. i agree with everyone there's some really good sharing here. Most people would never confess that's the reality. Certainly, that's what I myself meant and expected you to quote Bienne as more or less echoing. :-). focus on you and your DH. There's a difference between sex and kissing. Hi Scope! Tell your husband. Yes Im addiction there are things called SUDs.. I see this as two issues. Tl;dr: why do I feel guilty after ending things with a guy who grabbed my ass during our first kiss? PS: Don't ever drop it, will you. It's not that big of a deal anyway and you aren't going to do it again. As I left, the boy who I kissed came with me and I tried my best to shrug him off. This one by far has lasted the longest. We were going through an awkward time in the relationship and I was craving the attention and simplicity of this guy. He doesn't deserve to be hurt by this. Keep it to yourself. I'm so confused. I'm really surprised that everyone is saying "It's just a kiss" and to not tell the SO. He encouraged me to to ring for a taxi from his house which I did. Unforeseeable consequence. Any help or advise would be much appreciated. Wow! Ashley Madison helped things along with extramarital affairs. I appreciate you taking the time to reply to me, I can see you feel very passionate about infidelity, however, on this occassion I won't be taking your advice. Yet obviously (action of posting on a forum after having pulled the snog plug) you don't like that bit. And Ill tell you why by first giving you some context the back. Personally, I think even innocently returning a kiss is cheating, although Id probably keep it to myself! Translation: Stuff moral taboos, my wanton self-gratification urge is more important than any implement for world peacebut I'm a nice guy, no, really I am.) Im guessing that theres a good chance you would have gone all the way if the piano teacher had gone for it. In a way you are trading his peace of mind for yours, do you really think that you will accomplish anything by doing that? Im more than competent at the piano myself, but this guy was amazing. Spoiler alert: Not that different from kissing a girl, only they dont fancy them. Try to channel the guilt into something good, into turning your back on temptation and having a good night out with your friends. Because telling him something that you regret and will never do again is doing exactly that. Hence - two aims for the price of one act: psychological fertility treatment + attention and affection. You don't have control over these things. I was enjoying myself and loving the chats and laughs. I noticed him kinda touching my hand a bit but I didn't pull away. The caller wasn't experienced (like me). Guilt is a common feeling of emotional distress that signals us when our actions or inactions have caused or might cause harm to another personphysical, emotional, or otherwise. v5.00a - 0.32607s [RUM] 2023-03-03 02:57:10. It's good you feel guilty, that means your not cheating pond scum. VerticalScope Inc., 111 Peter Street, Suite 600, Toronto, Ontario, M5V 2H1, Canada. (*'I know, your right, it's just I'm really attracted to you and couldn't not act on it, I'm sorry, you're right'. I remember saying 'no, no, this is bad' in the middle of it, and he said 'I know but I really like you and I have done for ages', and he kissed me again, but this time only for a second because I said ' I really can't do this, I have no excuse, I'm married and he's lovely, it's not like I'm unhappy, he's a good person' then he kinda just stroked my arm and said 'I know, your right, it's just I'm really attracted to you and couldn't not act on it, I'm sorry, you're right'. You're going through tests BY OTHERS to find out why you can't fall pregnant. this guy only tried to kiss you so as far as you cheating on him there is no and your appropriate response was toback away and leave the guy standing. If it were my husband, I would be upset too, because that would be so out of character for the man I know. Did You Know Anxiety Can Enhance Our Relationships? I love him so much and feel totally ashamed at what happened over the weekend in what was a drunken moment at at a party.I got drunk and kissed another boy. / Dyathinkhesaurus? I had a kind of aha reaction because I realized I was attracted to him. Because just as everyone else is saying, if you did the RIGHT thing, you shouldn't feel guilty. But I don't see the need to borrow trouble by telling your boyfriend if you have learned your lesson and know you will never do something like that again. I myself have had issues in the past months but I won't elaborate. I reassured my husband that this would never happen again and that I was sorry. [3] you couldn't extend to him the same courtesy he'd already extended to *you* (i.e. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. And has also started crying for no reason when things are going well between us. However for the next time please be careful and never do such a blunder because he's a gem and you should not lose him just for your stupid or foolish acts .i mean any sophisticated or a ONE MAN WOMAN (a proud title for me :) and hopflly for u too ) wont like to stress her relatn or leave a man whom she loves or take him in a position where he might leave ? the guy has a long term girlfriend who he lives with and he said she was really angry with him for coming home so late, then he said, look, I think we're good people that completely lost our minds for 5 minutes, and are suffering major guilt for it now, but it will never ever happen again, and I'm not going to say a word to anyone' to which I replied 'neither am I' and he said 'ok, look I'll see you on Monday but this is going to be ok, don't worry, we can move on from this' I am sure this girl knows he is married. I am not someone that cheats on people, I am just a nice lad who gets carried away in the moment when drunk. Own your truth- You did not expect to hear the REAL TRUTH and the RIGHT ADVICE. It's wonderful that you even wanted to kiss someone! One way to get over the guilt would be to prove to yourself that it will never happen again. Many people who get drunk become more amorous, and if our significant others arent with us at the time of our drinking binge, we might be inclined to kiss or even have sex with someone else because were not playing with a full deck when were drunk. instead of: 07/12/2015 22:05. If you we're my girlfriend and it was years ago and never happened again I would not want to know. But for me, it was. That tells you that even if you think you are not showing any signs of being attracted to someone, peoples S/Os have a since of whats going on! Old Medication, New Use: Can Prazosin Curb Drinking? In essence . he said if i started making out with another girl, hed be into it, but if i started getting carried away and disappearing with But living a lie would be so much worse. My opinion, fwiw, is that what you did was not that bad. Pointer much appreciated, though. you are 18 or older, you read and agreed to the. response. Visit my website and follow me on Twitter @GuyWinch. You can confess to your significant other and accept the consequences, knowing that you might hurt your partner by confessing. I think they all count as cheating and I'm not sure it's necessary to make a distinction. That is what separates the women from the girls.

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